The routines and dynamics of each couple They are a world, just like their way of communicating, respecting or loving each other. However, there are behaviors that have been named because of their repetitive, and sometimes toxic, nature in some relationships, such as ‘disturbance syndrome’. the little mermaid‘.
For her part, the surgeon and specialist in psychiatry RocÃo Barrios has exposed the reality of this syndrome inspired by the legendary film disneyin which a young mermaid became human in exchange for her voice.
Barrios assures in an interview on the radio program Health and Something Moreof W Radio that when you go through a love situation in which this tendency develops “you give your voice” to another person. “You donate your ability to have judgment, your autonomy, your ability to have all the things that you have built yourself, the ability to decide…” says the expert.
“We distort what love really is”
Furthermore, he adds that under this syndrome “we distort what love really is” under an ideal “that we have in our heads” and that does not exist as we fantasize, like that “Prince Charming” from princess movies. This is exactly what happens to the Little Mermaid in her story,”redeem your voice to have something“.
“There are women who cut their hair the way their partner wants or stop wearing the baggy pants they love because the other person likes tight ones better. That they stop going out with their friends or stop going to art classes. We give our voice to the Úrsula that inhabits us,” he explained.
This behavior can become dangerous, forming emotional dependence and affecting, at first, the individual identity of a person and their mental health and then, the relationship, in all its areas. “When one exceeds in giving, one does not allow one to receive, which generates an emotional imbalance,” adds Barrios, ensuring that the behavior ends up becoming a “submission” in which we are “puppets.”
Can this trend be prevented?
The expert emphasizes that it is essential to know yourself and “make a list of capabilities” to be “aware” of what we can and cannot do for ourselves. In this way, each person’s “inner voice” would be more strengthened and protected by possible people who might try to steal it or keep it in the future.
Another of his tips to prevent this behavior is to “keep in mind and be aware that in the first moments with someone” you will only see the good and charming of this person. It’s once “in” that you notice behaviors or personality traits that you don’t like or seem to exist.
Barrios exalts the importance of loving oneself and everything that has been built personallywithout devaluing it among the person who enters our lives. At the same time, it is necessary to know how to identify when something is going wrong, signs that alert us to toxic or harmful behaviors that could worsen both our relationship and our mental health.
“Listen to the Sebastian who inhabits you, the Sebastian of The Little Mermaid“who always looked after the benefit, care and protection of Ariel, adds the surgeon. “The most important thing about human beings is that we are unique“, sentence.